Internet dating scams asking for money
My gut though, is telling me he is a very patient scammer. Not Helpful 18 Helpful How long should you communicate on site before giving someone your number? Online isn't the best place to hand over your number. Suggest a meet-up in a public place instead. Not Helpful 1 Helpful How do I get more pictures of someone online who I think might be a scammer? Make this a condition for you two to talk any further. If you pursue this conditional stance, and the other person gets mad or says he's hurt, walk away.
Not Helpful 14 Helpful I have a friend that uses a dating site and the women he's speaking to lied about their age. Now apparently her father is making threats to him unless he sends money via Western Union. The phone number is on the other side of the states and she is threatening to get the law is involved. What should he do? He should report this threat to the site and see what they do. Then, it's best to get him to tell police or another family member on the issue because he is a victim of extortion.
Help him to see he is not the one in the wrong. Not Helpful 23 Helpful Can they still be scamming you even if they don't ask for money? Do they contact you once you call them scammers? Some scammers find ways to get your money without asking for it.
Some scammers will disappear if you call them scammers, but some will try to convince you otherwise. Not Helpful 22 Helpful Should I trust a girl who won't give me her phone number or let me see her Facebook account? If she contacted you first that might be a red flag, but if you contacted her first, she might be trying to be cautious. Look for other signs. Not Helpful 9 Helpful If someone I met online is always spending money on me, and then asking me to send them money in return, could these be signs of a scam? Scammers don't usually spend money on their victims, rather they demand money from their victims and it never stops.
However, spending money on you and then turning around and asking for money could be a case of bait and switch to lower your guard, so be careful. Ask why they need money so badly if they are spending it on you, as it'd just be easier if they kept that money for their own needs! Not Helpful 25 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. Tips Unfortunately, encountering online scammers is a very real possibility. Romance scams are the leading cause of lost money due to scams, and somewhere around 12 percent of people who use online dating have reported running into a scammer. Refraining from answering this question or saying something snarky like "I work" will often dissuade them from pursuing your profile.
Searching for a person on job sites like LinkedIn may help you find the person or people on which a scammer is basing their profile. Certain speech patterns could indicate that they are a scammer. Poor English and nonsense words indicate that they probably aren't in the United States. Warnings Remember the Golden Rule of online interaction: Never give out your dating service account password. Even employees of the dating service will not ask for your password. Do not accept packages or payments from potential scammers, as doing so may involve you in money laundering.
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But had to go take care of mum in Africa. She says I'm so handsome I'm not and wants to see me in person and hear me. But her cell phone seems to be faulty and her old laptop doesn't have a built in camera. She wants me to send money to buy one via her money transfer account. I told her I'm doing a background check. She keeps on trying. Really appreciated the tip about the Google Search image. It identified a man who said he was Roden Miller actually Jeffrey Miller as a scammer.
He said he was a widower with a 14 year old son. He is in the army stationed in Houston Texas but is currently on a peacekeeping mission in Libya but would be returning soon. He friend requested me on FaceBook. DB Dawn Burton Jun 17, I refuse to give my number or email and insist on staying on that site. I also enjoy toying with these scammers with elaborate stories of wealth, success, and loneliness. This keeps them busy from victimizing another.
SA Sarah Anderson Sep 4, ST Suzanne Taylor Oct 19, Met a man, ages similar. He was well-educated and spoke with a beautiful French accent. Scammers are good at making you believe that you are the one. Probably gave out information that I shouldn't have. He got no money. Claire Sep 7, TT Tracy Turner Aug 5, I didn't start asking the right questions until it was too late for me and my money.
Please take the time to read this and also take the advice given very seriously on the dating sites. SA Stephen Austin May 17, Warning about using terms of endearment very early on in communication was also helpful. I'd like to add that scammers often send quite lengthy, detailed messages at first. Phillips Feb 23, Also learned don't tell him you love him not before you meet him in person! JN Jackie No Sep 7, Sadly, I gave too much info and I believe out of three, two are fakes and likely the other guy I liked texts and talks at all hours supposedly when he was overseas? He had my telephone number but I didn't have his!
PD Patricia Dickenson Jan 1, Things that have been said ring true! I just hope other ladies do not get trapped, it is as has been said: DO David Obrien May 18, Some first hand advice about a couple of sites. I have proven it many times. Thankfully, I am smart, no money was exchanged.
ML Mili Lee May 5, Saved me from a scammer trying to me a parcel from the U. After reading this, I told him, "I won't be able to pay". AS Ann Smith Jul 12, I might have continued the relationship; I'm grateful for the advice. FF Felicidad Ferro Aug 24, I now know I stupidly fell for a scammer from the UK. Thanks for your help. I now know what I need to do.
TA Toni Alexander Jul 20, I only wish I had done research on this previously because I was scammed. I have spoken to numerous scammers on each dating site I have tried. MK Missy Kuhn Jul 10, This was very informative. Glad I found it so I can help my friend who I suspected was getting herself into a dating scam. The third is hard on me Was time to come home but government there wanted him to pay the income tax on the projected earnings before he left Good thing I am poor because I didn't have the money to send and told him so.
All three were sure I was the gal for them and that we would be together one day! OMG , I think you and i were scammed by the same guy. This guy had salt n pepper colored hair and a goatee. The first guy you mentioned Did he go by the name Gary Osmond? Wife died of breast cancer.
On oil rig as a seismic interpretor? Has a son he leaves with nanny but won't say nanny's name. Yes, I was recently scammed by a man who claimed to be American. He told me he was a civil engineer working in South Africa. He told me his wife had died from cancer. He also told me he wanted to marry me. I always suspected something was wrong. He asked for money help on the last e-mail. I called my sister and she reminded me it was a scam.
I still had feelings for him, until that day. Please, be careful ladies. Scammers are looking for female victims, you say? Most scammers that have victimized me have been young females. I met girl online skout app she gave me phone number I rang her she real she gave telegram messenger app we text each other all she wanted my money I look up Facebook no profile She want me transfer money into bank account she said she loves me want me is she scamming me money.
I'm writing because I have concerns that my aunt is currently being romanced by a scammer. She's 69, overweight, been divorced over 10 years, and hasn't dated at all in that time. She does have a 19 yr old daughter and has prob poured her time into that. But, she started talking to a guy on Our time. Within a couple days of making a profile. She's never been on a dating site before.
He also has told her he will be traveling to Mexico soon for work. I think she said he has a scrap metal business. She ate that up. He says he has a sister that has cancer here in Alabama that he says he helps care for. He has a foreign accent, speaks broken English, and says his family is of German descent.
He is younger, attractive, has photos he has sent her of a red Mercedes in front of a large home and of him driving a boat. I Google image searched all of his photos with little luck. But, 2 of the photos matched seemingly fake LinkedIn profiles for a man with a different name. The guy on the profiles lives in LA, has a master's in engineering from Oxford, and is an account executive at the World Bank for 45 yrs.
So, I sent those profiles to my aunt and she is supposedly done with him. Well he convinced her his former business partner embezzled all of his assets and scammed him. He told her that is also why he has no social media presence. She totally believes it. We have tried to get her to video chat with him or to ask for a photo with her name and the date on it.
I think she wants to continue living in Lala land. We just don't know how to get through to her. The guy in the pictures is way too attractive and young for her, so she probably doesn't want to mess it up is my guess. I was like you've given him your address to send you a Teddy Bear and even if he is the guy in the photos he could be a criminal, convicted sex offender, etc. She says "he's so genuine and honest". If I Google image search doesn't find the pictures you are researching, use the other reverse imaging sites, as yandex.
I have found that you have to use all three search enginees, to get the best chance to find any unknown photos. Remember also that make a new search some days after the first search. The image that the search sites find, is updated regulary. Hi, I had this guy, who suddenly appear in my facebook sending me a friend request.. I checked his fb profile, and saw only very few post.. He told me, if we can chat on hangouts, so i said ok.. He is a widower, he has a 12 yr old son.. I was shocked because we did not know each other well..
I told him that I have a bf, and he never mind about it.. He said he was si busy, he only gets a vacation once every 4months.. I even uninstalled my hungots so that he cant disturb me anymore Yes that's a scammer.. Very good you spotted that he was from Nigeria. Everything else he told you was a lie. I got a women from Nigeria telling me she was searching and find me and thought it would be nice to get to know me. I didn't think nothing of it until she started to love me already.
It's been 1 month into this. Who ever is behind all of this has spent a lot of money in data. She contacts me every day. She's a student, works at salon and runs jewelry business as well. The read Flag was that she said some guys came into the studio and said for , nira she could get a visa to US. You see all this is false the price is less than 60, Nira. I feel like this is such a waste of time. Then she send me a copy of her Nigerian passport. I have notice that it has errors in the spelling and birth year is looks like it was made from the number 6 instead of 9.
Goes to show you what they would do for the money. I confronted her about all of this but she said what am I talking about. I doubt she's be coming here real soon. Because they never do, if you don't pay for it but even if you do they still won't come because they no you will keep sending the money. Why leave your country to go and see the guy or girl sending you money for hopes, dreams and non-visit..
I therefore ask "her" to buy a webcam. And that I am pausing our conversation til I can see the person I am chatting with. Some of the "women" told me that they are working for UN i Syria, U. S Army and aren't allowed to use any webcam. A funny "woman" asked me to send money to her, to buy a webcam. S, but we're living in U. I told her that I will buy her a webcam through a Internet-shop in U.
K directly, if she give me her address where it could be delivered. But she insisted that she wanted me to send money. But I had some success. At last, I meet a local girl, to my surprise, living in my neighborhood. Beware of a scammer using the name Katie Morgan claiming to live in Orlando Florida and has a daughter named Vera. This person will swear her undying love and may refer to you as her "King". If you say you're done with her she'll say she's going to commit suicide.
May even tell you she's either in the hospital or just got out of the hospital. I was caught in a romance scam for over a year. This person told me they lived in another state but would not call. Money was sent to this person several thousand dollars, as they told me they were divorced after her ex abandoned her and her daughter.
After six months of being lied to this person "came clean" and told me her daughter was living with her aunt in the US and that her ex abandoned her in Nigeria with nothing but her luggage. Then I was told it had met a lady that she'd became good friends with named Nneka and that I could send money to her in the name Katie Morgan Nneka. That was the final straw and I've since stopped talking to this person and changed my phone number. The're out there they want your money because they're the winner you are the loser. They have their own song about. Never give them money, they will do everything they can to get your money.
I smart they will never get it. I would like to see one of them actually fly here. Western Union is suppose to ask you how long you know this person and protect you from sending the money. You don't know this girl she's a fake and lair. They just want the money nothing else matters just the money! Are you really trying to offer another scam on an article that talks about how to be aware of scams? Recommend deleting this post above. In this article they suggest a search, for someone you think may be trying to scam you, says the search is free The next screen asks for a credit card number and which option you'd like to use??
Why did the previous screen say 'free' if it's not actually free. That sounds like a scam right there. Google Reverse Image Search https: Yandex Reverse Image Search https: Bing Reverse Image Search http: TinEye Reverse Image Search https: I'm in contact with a orthopaedic doctor, who tells me his in Ukraine, we've been chatting every day for some time now. He constantly tells me how much i mean to him, but don't they all? Since joining a dating site, think I've had more scammers than hot dinners.
I chat with him on viber, what should I do? Sounds like the best thing to do is just cease all contact.
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All of that sounds like typical scam techniques, and it'll be easier to just cut off all communication. Wow that sounds very much like the man I've been talking to I met him on CatholicMatches. If he doesn't get the money he will lose the contract and not get paid for all his time, efforts and hard work and will not get paid as they will reassign the contract elsewhere.
I could go on but it sounds like we're taking to the same man Beverly that sounds a lot like this guy that is communicating with me. Brian Reynolds with a heavy accent. Needed an iTunes card to continue to chat since his phone card was getting low and couldn't leave his job site to buy one. There are a million of them out there. Sounds like a man I met on Match. He is on an oil rig and lost some equipment. Wanted me to send money to help pay for it. Now he is asking me to send money to help his daughter supposedly.
Hmmm wonder if he is the same man. Reading these posts I'm shocked to see how much scamming seems to be "a thing" now days. I've had two attempts made on me in the last 3 months; and luckily I didn't fall for it. I met the first one on FB and only accepted his friend request because we had a friend in common. I went to his timeline to see who the friend was, and it was a childhood friend I've known since the 3rd grade.
Now after this has happened again, and the 2 men sounded like the same man probably was ; I've been online the last two days looking at sites like this one It's amazing how we can become attached to, and really start to care about someone just through conversation! My friends kept telling me to watch out, and I said that he hadn't asked me for money as the first one had. Lo and behold 2 days later he asked if I could send him an ITunes card, I though that wasn't asking for much considering he's out at sea, etc Then 4 days later last night he wanted a lot more, for a seemingly good reason, but when I told him no, he turned very cold, where before, he was madly in love and couldn't wait to meet, that I was the best woman that he'd had the good fortune to meet, yada yada yada.
Luckily I wasn't taken for more. So I know much more now after going to these sites on how to spot and avoid scammers, but it's just too emotionally draining ; I went to the Catholic dating site where I met him and opted out on renewing my subscription. Mine expires in November and I will not be renewing it. I'm very wary now about meeting someone online who is honest and trustworthy, who wants a relationship and not money.
Well I wish everyone luck, just be very careful out there in cyberspace. Too bad the old saying is true I feel ya sister!!! Probably stole those pics. Told him no to iTunes card. I did the dumbest thing ever. I actually started talking to man through his email. He was going to be leaving the site soon etc. With in seven days we had 48 pages of emails. None of his information could be verified. A meeting had been set up, but postponed because he had to go to the UK on business. He knew I had no money up front, why keep up the front? He claimed to be pretty wealthy, but when I checked where he said he lived, it was cockroach infested apartments in very bad section of town.
The real kicker he was out of town supposedly local at the time, and he asked me what airport he had to fly into to get to our locality. The idiot didn't know how to get home. I think my friend is being groomed by a scammer. Its happening on facebook. On her page she only has pictures of herself and some of my friend that he sent her. She has no friends listed on her page. Its like she has no life. He is too innocent to see it. She is young and pretty, he is 48 and bald.. Her name on fb is sandra ashlyn from california city california. I really hope he doesnt get conned out of any money.
I think you're right. I wish we didn't have to wade through all this crap to find love. I've given up on it. I would date a guy who is 48 and bald maybe because I'm an age appropriate match , but I can't find any who are real and who aren't looking for year-old women. I hope your friend survives this without losing his life savings. That does sound a bit like a scam, but it's always hard to tell.
Have there been any updates since you posted this? I met this girl on Skout, and at first, everything was coming along at a nice pace, we started talking around midnight, but everything escalated quickly. She is from CA, like me, but "working" in Nigeria. That same night, she told she was out of the country for research and her debit card wasn't working.
She said she would be home in two weeks from the day we met, which will be three days from the day I am posting this. She said she needed to pay her phone bill so she would be able to talk to me. I payed her through Western Union. She then needed grocery money, so i then payed her the next couple days. I even called her out that this was a scam, and she said she would never scam me or hurt me. We argued for a while asking what is her benefit from scamming me, and i told her my money. I asked her to send a photo of herself with a sign with my name, which I did for her, and the photo looked photoshopped.
I called her out on it and she got mad, but she sent me a real photo with her same top, just without the sign. I helped her out with groceries on and off until she told me if she doesn't pay her hotel bill, she will go to jail. She sent me a picture of a check from a restaurant in Tennessee, where she is not from, and asked me to put it in my account, cash it, then wire it to her. I told her no, this is a scam.
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She said she was heartbroken because I thought she was fake. We argued all day that day and she said she just wanted to see me. She said i don't need to deposit the money and that she will be fine. She said she just wants my love. In her country, it is an 8 hour time difference, and she said she literally hated working out there.
She text me when she got up, she even fell asleep a couple times. And she wasn't even model-type, she was really cute though with live selfies. She sent me many pictures of herself and no similar images popped up with reverse image search. I sent her a couple of mine, and she said no dirty pics, and she said she is a virgin. When they ask for money then it is a scam. If not, then that person is just using you for money.
If she is legit she will come. I asked her to send a photo of herself with a sign with my name Special "photoshop" software is available on the Internet, where you could type in whatever text you want, in the sign. I got talking to a woman on a dating site. The conversation moved from the site to whatsapp and we have been talking on whatsapp for a long time in the evening and she is sending videos and images of herself.
Everything being talked about is normal in the conversation and nothing out of the ordinary. Tuesday she said that she needed to go to casablanca for a meeting about some affairs. Then on wednesday she said that the meeting is not going well and that she needs to send a package to france and could I receive this package. It is at this moment I knew that it was a scam, so now I am playing the scammer. My best line so far has been that I have shown her photo to my friend who is a policeman and he thinks that you are really cute and that he looks forward to meeting you.
I have given all her details to the local police. I fell into it too met this really pretty woman online kept saying she loved me all the time long story short bought her a cell phone calls me can barely understand her such bs got me to purchase a plane ticket well i stopped it she goes by the name juliet corsy, or ruth juliet anni , she has 3 phone numbers all differnt locations she will say she's rich has money coming to her dont believe it its all bullshit.
Actually it's mostly men who are the victims by "young women" and older women who are scammed by "younger men". I thnk im being scammed too. I think its just stupid to believe that easily, but it is just but normal to give these people the benefit of the doubt that maybe, just maybe, they like you for real reasons..
I started dating a guy from Ghana and we had been talking for almost four months. In the first month he asked would I be supportive of him and I asked what did he mean and he said if I could help him get a place because he lived with a friend and had no privacy. That was strange he would ask that but when I explained to him I couldn't he understood and never asked again. Next month he claimed to have been using someones phone and that he had to return it.
We went from talking everyday to barely talking and I had got use to talking everyday, so when he asked if I could help him with a new phone I helped him. He wanted me to western union the money which I did and he told me he didnt have a id and that I had to put his friend name down because he was going to have his friend do it and I did.
These things didnt really sit well with me but I continued to talk to him because he was very nice. It wasnt until recently a few days ago to be exact that I realized I am being scammed. Like we video chat and everything He said his mother passed away 2 years ago and they wanted to give him what she left behind. First thing is he never told me his mother passed and when he was saying it he appeared to be very sad He asks if I can deposit the money in my bank account then send it to him.
So when he said this "woman" needs some info from me to make the deposit I said ok. Im like why does she need all this and he says she need it for the deposit. Im telling him she would not need all that, but he's trying to pressure me to do it and saying I need to trust him.
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I kept saying a relationship with no trust is no relationship at all. So i started looking up things online and thats how I noticed I was being scammed. From the strong feelings so fast, to the love quotes, just everything they speak of online is what I'm dealing with. The crazy thing is his profile is real, we video chat and everything. It hurts so bad to know that I have been talking to someone for 4 months developing real true genuine feelings and the whole time he was after my money.
I am only 28 and so is he Im so ashamed because he has photos of me and my address. Idk whats to come next??? Yeah, requesting all of that information is definitely a warning sign. I'm glad to hear that you thought of that right away!
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Many people don't realize it until later. Check if the pictures you've sent him are published on dating sites and pretend to be a girl looking for their partner in life. Use Internet Reverse Image Search. If you find your photos, please contact the dating department and tell them to delete the fake profile. If you have bad luck this unscrupulous guy could have recorded your video conversation and will use it to scam other but, pretending to be you.
Or he will sell the video to other scammers. I got in an video-conversation with a fine woman around 30, living in Ghana. The funny thing was, that her microphone wasn't functioning. So I asked her via chat to put her hands on her ears. Then "she" complained why I don't trusted her. She never put her hands on her ears. The reason that I asked, was that if it was a real time video, it would been easy for her, to put her hands on her ears. I'm sure that the scammer was playing a prerecorded video with som woman he have scammed.
So be aware when you do a video-conversation with somebody unknown. It could be recorded, and used to scam other people. This is my story: I wasn't looking for a date, but came across the site by chance. I was on for a very short time when I got hit up. First by a guy that said he was a doctor, but sounded more like a moron. Within a week he was calling me 'Babe'. Soon after I was approached by another that was quite good at his craft. Exceptional actually, but there does seem to be pattern.
I'd like to share my findings here, but how can I know that the scammers aren't here looking for tips? I will go so far as to write about an experience I had that left me quite baffled. Hopefully you can shed some light on it. You mentioned that we need to go with our gut feelings. This is a tip that is becoming more and more true in this day and age in general. The encounter I had was with a man with a picture of a naked chest as his profile picture.
He provided no other picture. Most of our correspondence was , 'Hi', 'Hey', 'How you doing? I started chatting with him shortly after I had encountered my first perpetrator I'll call him 'suitor' for the sake of this question. There was no reason to believe that one had anything to do with the other, but I had this gut feeling that in some way this new guy naked chest was somehow connected. Anyway, 'Naked chest' asked for my number and I ignored the question.
Later when my curiosity was heightened, I gave it to him. After more of the same tiresome dialect he suggested that he had been asking me out and wanted to know if we could meet up. I unknowingly missed that clue. We were to meet at the market in his neighborhood.
I arrived early and texted him to let me know when he got there, and that I was going to go into one of the other stores. He texted me when he arrived later than expedited. I came out and waited, but there was no one to be seen. He texted that he had to take a call form his 'boss' and he was terribly sorry. The call would take longer than he intended. I told him I was going to grab a bite to eat, to just let me know when he was available.
I finally gave up and told him I was heading home. He said "I'm so sorry". I asked if he saw me. The next day I didn't hear anything. Again curiosity got the better of me. After a couple of days I said, 'If you'd like to try again, let me know, otherwise just tell me you're not interested and there would be no hard feelings. For the sake of argument, I think it helpful to say, I look exactly as I do in my pictures, so it wasn't a matter of my appearance. My curiosity can't help but wonder if his 'boss' was my 'suitor'.
But what would be the purpose, what would the purpose be either way? That's a pretty strange scenario. Just goes to show that it's a good idea to listen to your intuition in these sorts of situations! I've read that statistics show that one in 10 people on a dating sight is a scam. My experience , however, has been more like only one out of 10 is the real deal. I started chatting with him shortly after I had encountered my second perpetrator I'll call him 'suitor' for the sake of this question.
He said "no'" The next day I didn't hear anything. That is pretty strange, you're right.
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Definitely seem suspicious, though. Glad to hear you're being careful! I am not sure- but I believe this guy is trying to set up trust. He has sent me about 15 pictures- including one of his daughter- nothing came up in various searches- an architect who first had to travel to Paris- who sent me pictures of he posing w the landmarks I asked but he could have these in his arsenal just in case- I asked him to send me a picture of him lying in bed- he did-there is someone by his name listed in his town in the white pages- his daughters name when searched has this guy's name as a relative.
His English reflects his education very well spoken- but is is Acraa Ghana surveying the land as an architecture before the hotel is built- dropped his phone- does not have money on him for his iphone6- I told him to buy a throw away prepaid if it was important to speak w me. He asked again- I refused- he apologized that he bothered me and continued to talk to me.
His communication is sparse now saying the interconnect is bad in Ghana. I have questioned him about the weather- he is on the mark and he called me both from Paris and Acraa- both with the correct country code- I am cautious but confused. That's a tough call. There are quite a few signs that it could be a scam, but his responsiveness to your requests seems like a good sign. Either way, be very cautious, especially if he starts asking for things from you. I was scammed on surge! Cute younger guy chatted for a bit and seemed fine. He gave me the link to get verified and it said it was free but needed a cc to validate me.
So like a dummy I used my only cc I had bank card and the sight charged me I told him what it did and he sent me another link to clear it and get my money back, but that link asked for my cc info again. I told him this and he said I had to put it in again to get my money back and get the free trail. So I did but my card was declined , I freaked out thinking that my account was wipe clean out. So I checked my account and it was only the I told him this then he ask how much money my card had on it red flag I told him enough lol.
I call my bank and closed my debit card and have a new one coming in 3 days. I feel I got lucky and that he was planning somehow to clean out my bank account. So I am on the look out now that's for sure. Sorry to hear about that! I'm glad you didn't get scammed for all you're worth. It could have been a lot worse. Thanks for sharing your experience—hopefully it helps someone else avoid the same fate! It's funny, not really but you believe you are getting conned and yet you can't believe that it can actually happen to you.
I met a fellow on a dating site - made a good connection, gave him my phone number, he wanted to send me something so I gave him my home address and I got flowers and chocolates. I was on cloud nine. He didn't want to meet until we talked and knew we had a connection. Made sense, I had never been on a dating site before. He is an engineer and was submitting different bids. Had one accepted in Turkey - and would be flying out the following week to set up the initial contacts and set up the working plan.
Next week for sure. Talk to him by phone and the project in Turkey has problems and he now must pay for repairs to a machine that one of his employees broke. I don't have any. Every time he phones, texts, he asks if I have come up with any solution because we are in this together. He calls and says he can come home, the Director of the project will allow him to leave so he can get his financial situation straightened out in the US.
But he doesn't have the funds to purchase the ticket, could I give him the money? He gets to the airport and can't get on the flight, the machinery company will not allow him to board the plane. He gets a lawyer and the lawyer discusses with machinery company, if he now buys the machinery they will allow him out of the country.
I am suppose to go to the bank for a loan in order for this to proceed. He has no one else that can help him, so he says. I read this and I think, oh come on, are you that blind, so in love with a fictional character on the computer. Yet, I think, he is this great person, that I might be missing out on.
I feel like a fool, in my gut I think I am getting screwed, and in my heart I want this person. So sorry to hear about your experience. You're right, though; even if you're on the lookout for scams, you can still be taken advantage of. They're really good at what they do. I just had a go round with this SAME guy.
I reported him to Match. I didn't give in when he asked that I wire money to Turkey and called him out but he continued to try to keep me on the hook. Had a supposed Turkish cell and whatsapp acct. I demanded he send me verified ID and he kept coming up with reasons why he could not--company in Turkey keeps their passports until the job is done, he left his driver's license at home.
He finally sent me a fake CA driver's license with a bunch of mistakes on it and when I called him out on that he finally stopped trying to keep me on the hook. He popped up on Match. While I'm not totally convinced it's the same guy, it certainly bears a remarkable resemblance! I'm glad you figured it out in time. A pdf of the story is a available here http: I got on our time. I wouldn't worry about getting in trouble; people get scammed all the time, and I don't think that's much of an issue. Also, don't be too hard on yourself; the people who do this are experts, and they know exactly which emotional triggers to use.
They're really good at what they do, and you're not the first or last person to be taken advantage of. About two weeks ago, I f, 33 met a guy on the "Whisper" app. He said his name was Jim, he was 31 years old and lived in Texas. I live in Germany and I am German. He seemed very nice and we connected really well right from the beginning. I texted with him for about five days in a row for several hours every night and enjoyed it very much.
He told me that he was a computer network architect who worked from home. When I said that I think that he must be very intelligent because I could never do a job like his, he told me that I was so full of compliments that night. When I replied that I didn't want to come across as slimy, he told me: You just seem like a girl who might be falling for a guy.
To this he answered: Because I'm really falling for you! But then I somehow really believed him One evening when we were in the middle of texting again, he wrote all of a sudden: My mom just called. She thinks my Dad is having a heart attack. I have to go over there immediately. He told me that his Dad had actually had a heart attack and was now in hospital in intensive care and that a bypass surgery was planned for the following day Saturday. The next time I heard from him was Sunday night. My Dad didn't make it.
He didn't even make it to the surgery but passed late Friday night. I completely believed what he told me and I didn't expect him to text me until a few days later. To my surprise, he already texted the following night again, saying that he was having a few minutes alone and that he would be glad if we could talk for a little while. He told me a little bit about the funeral arrangements and other things he and his family were occupied with at the moment. He was very sweet in what he wrote he said it was so nice talking to me and that I was so sweet etc.
Of course, I believed the things he told me and tried to comfort him. At some piont he said that he should leave before long but didn't want to, so we continued texting further. After about another five minutes he wrote: I wish I could talk all night, but family calls. But he never responded again! He jhas completely disappeared since then. No "Good night" or "Talk to you soon" or anything like that on this night and not a single sign from him since then. I already had a strange feeling that night when I didn't get a real goodbye from him, since he always used to wish me a good night before leaving.
Then again, I thought that he was probabaly too devastated to pay attention to such things in this difficult time. I texted him the following night and asked if he was ok. Of course I didn't expect long text messages from him at that point. I just wanted to know how he was doing. Then, for the following days I texted him again that I was missing him and that I was worried about him and just wanted to know if he was okay. Again no response but also no blocking on his part. He has just remained completely silent since he wrote me: Today marks the 8th day since I last heard from him and after having sent him another message last night, I have now decided not to write him again and have also deleted our conversation.
By doing this I am not able to contact him any longer the only way of getting in contact again would be if he texted me. But I don't think this will happen I would love to get your opinion on this story. Do you think I have fallen victim to a romantic scam here? Considering the fact that he told me he was falling for me, only not to respond to my messages at all shortly after, but ignoring me completely instead.
Or do you think that it might really be the case that the death of a close family member has such an impact on someone that he actually might not be able to communicate by writing just one short sentence in order to let the person he was allegedly falling for know how he is doing? It's really hard to tell, especially when contact was just broken off. I wish I had better advice for you! How can a person who has never interact with you tell you they love you.
Only a month later.